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For example, in examining factors that facilitate forgiveness,
and whether age is a factor, the authors explain:
Age is not a reliable guide to a person’s ability
to forgive. Some researchers report that
the propensity to forgive increases from
adolescence to old age. Other studies have
found no relationship, and our own recent
research discovered that the inclination to forgive
decreased with age. Given mixed and contrary
results, we cannot rely on age as a predictor of
the willingness to forgive.
Forgiving Others, Forgiving Ourselves contains eleven
chapters. The first five examine various dimensions of forgiveness: the nature of forgiveness; the benefits of forgiving
and being forgiven; the reasons for resistance to the practice
of forgiveness; and factors that facilitate forgiveness. The
next five chapters lay out the pathways and steps to forgiveness and reconciliation. Special attention is paid to the
role of an apology. The concluding chapter describes how
individuals can help others forgive. The endnotes, organized
by chapter, and a list of books and websites are useful for
those wishing to learn more about this topic.
The questions at the end of each chapter help the reader
reflect upon the material. Most questions are for those who
are thinking about forgiveness in their personal lives. There
are, however, a handful of questions that may be adapted by
conflict resolvers in facilitating conversations about forgiveness, for example:
• Is there any offense that is unforgivable? If so,
what is it?
• What’s important for you to hear when you
feel someone has said or done something that
• There may be ways to apologize without
words, such as changing behavior, sharing a
hug, or doing something kind for someone.
What are some ways you apologize without
using the words “I’m sorry?”
The dozens of engaging stories from the authors’ work in
conflict management provide concrete examples and illustrations of forgiveness. Many of the stories revolve around
families — children who experience hurtful behavior from a
parent, siblings who have not spoken to each other for years,
neighbors who have a grudge, students who has been bullied
at school — and would be relatable to many. Recent events are
also used as examples.
Forgiving Others, Forgiving Ourselves is for anyone who
works with deep levels of hurt and anger. It provides a pathway to for those seeking to give or receive forgiveness, which
makes it a useful resource for conflict resolvers.
The dozens of engaging stories from
the authors’ work in conflict management
provide concrete examples and
illustrations of forgiveness.